Swamy Sivananda was a famous philosopher and learned man. People used to visit him to get his advice in solving their problems in life. Once, Raja-lingam a typical family man visited him to seek his advice. He looked sober and confused.

He then said, “Sir, I come from a conservative family. I expect my children to be perfect in all aspects. Therefore I have to be very strict with them sometimes. On the other hand, my wife is very soft and is very lenient in her approach in upbringing the children.

Now my three children have all grown up and none of them care for me. They hate me as though I am their enemy. They don’t even respect their mother. We are worried and at this old age, I live fretting for their love and peace.

Swamy was having some holy water in a small vessel. He said, “I’m going to pour some water in your palm now. You have to stretch your palm open and hold the water” Raja lingam was unable to hold the water.

Then he said, “You can close your palm when I pour water this time”. He closed his palm quickly but, even this time he could not hold the water. Then he said, “Now you keep your palm half open and try”



Obviously, he was able to hold the water this time.

Swamy said,” this is the secret. You have to be tough enough to make them do their duties and live with good morals and soft enough not to lose their love.

That’s how we should raise our children to have them succeed in life without losing their love for you.

In the present days both men and women think that, there is no need to say sorry to their spouses. This may be because the media has taught us so by way of fancy stories and so on. However, in real life saying sorry to their spouses helps a lot to strengthen a relationship between a man and woman. You need to help love grow for ever.

While dating both men and women, do not show their minus points to their partners. The reality comes to light only when they tie up in a marriage and start living together.



To err is human. When we do something, which offends our spouse we should say sorry with out the least hesitation. Love means surrendering everything to the partner and living totally for him/her. Love means that there is no need to express any ego where your spouse is concerned. Remember you need to help love grow for ever.

In fact, you can even go to that extent of saying sorry to your spouse when you are not wrong, if it will keep the peace, but at the same time explain your views subtly so he/ she realizes who is at fault. After all, if it is going to please your spouse and strengthen your relationship why not? If you can easily forgive your children for all their mistakes, why cannot you do that for your spouse who is going to be with you through thick and thin and till the end of your life.

Remember you need to help love grow for ever.


Love means a need to say sorry.

There has been a serious debate going on this subject for quite a few years all over the world. People say that all the popular religions indicate the end of the world on this day.

They even say that Nostradamus had given a similar prediction. They also claim the Mayan’s calendar ends on this day.

They give so many reasons for the end of the world. It could be the result of the third world war. It could be the result of drastic changes in the solar system. It could also be the result of huge natural calamities.

It is also said that the earth’s magnetic field is changing to a great extent and so on and on. They also say that there is a serious threat to earth by some comets and asteroids that are fast approaching towards the earth.




The earth has been surviving for millions and millions of years. It had experienced so many disasters in the past but never failed in its survival. Of course, there have been many earth faults and notable changes in the global phenomenon.

However, it is difficult to believe that the world will end on this date. It may experience serious set backs during this year. The World is too young to die at this stage.

'How to get your ex boyfriend back?’. This is a million dollar question to many young females all over the world. It is also a very important issue as most of the females love to get their boy friends back to them. How to make this happen?

There are a few techniques with which you can get your boy friend back. First, do not mention anything that will damage his reputation to others, particularly to those who are common friends to both of you. If there is an occasion, greet him with a warm heart.

If some other guy is also interested in you, let your boy friend understand that you are in demand. However, you should not overdo this. You may work hard and come up in life; he will surrender to you very soon. You may improve your personality as well to attract him more.



You should wait patiently until he comes back to you. Patience and perseverance are the two important factors, which could get him back to you.Please don't try to find boy friend during this separation period. Never get close to any other male during this period of separation. If you have, some common friends you may use them to tell your boy friend that you are still in love with him. You should try to improve your personality and status during the period of separation. You must appear to be a new found treasure to your ex boy friend when he meets you after a long time.

Once there was a famous philosopher known for his consistent success in all his endeavors. One day a media person while interviewing him asked about his secret success factors. The philosopher did not reveal the success factors at that time and simply said, “come to the river tomorrow morning, I will tell you”.

The next day the media person went to the river much earlier unable to control the excitement and the suspense. The philosopher greeted him warmly and took him to the water. Then he suddenly grabbed him with force and held his head firmly under water. The media person was suffocating under water and trying hard for his life. After great difficulty, he somehow managed to pull his head out of the water.

His face looked pale clearly implying that he had not yet fully recovered from the terrible shock. His annoyance increased when he saw a mischievous smile on the philosopher’s face. With utter confusion and disgust, he asked him, “Why did you do that to me sir?” The philosopher with the smile still on his face asked him what he felt during the few seconds his face was under water. He replied, “I did not think anything else except to come to the surface and breathe”.



“That is it”, the philosopher said, “your complete attention and focus was to pull out of the water. If you have a similar attitude to win in life you will certainly do, that is the secret if you want to call it so.” Now the media person seemed to have understood the success factors.

The killer attitude to succeed is the key to success in any kind of work.

I was at a coffee shop a few months ago, when one of my friends happened to walk in looking rather sad and downcast. It worried me, as I had never seen him in this state before. It is rather difficult to go straight out and ask a person why he is not himself without wandering how your best-intended inquiry will be taken. After casually inquiring and talking on general matters, I subtly asked him if he was in any kind of difficulty. He told me that he was out of employment, and I referred him to a Company who needed someone of his stature. He was engaged on my recommendation, and was able to negotiate a decent salary more than his expectations. This gave me a sense of goodwill and I was very happy for him.

It was after about a month, when I saw him again, he seemed an even more worried man than before. I asked him why he seemed to be worried. He told me that his manager is a short-tempered person and he found it very difficult to cope with this sort of temperament. To my utter disappointment, he added he wanted to quit his job, as he could not cope with the stress anymore.

Then I told him about a recent real incident that involved a woman officer in the USA. She was working as a chief officer in a manufacturing company in New York. Her immediate manager used to berate her in a very harsh manner, very often in the presence of others for even the most trivial matters. His words hurt her deeply, even after she left her workplace and returned home.It reached a stage, when she could no longer stand the humiliation and stress; she thought it best to quit her job.

She however, consulted with a psychologist before deciding to submit her resignation. The doctor told her to continue in the job for another three months. He added, "Young lady, even the worst man will have a few good qualities. You find out the good qualities in him and appreciate them honestly. If you do not find any changes even after three months you can quit" She liked his idea and agreed to try it.

She noticed that her manager had very good dress sense. She complimented him on his taste, and choice of clothes, one day when they were alone. It seemed to work a little. Then one day she marveled at his immense technical knowledge and skills, and mentioned that this must contribute considerably to the company's benefit.

Three months later, she visited the psychologist with an invitation to her wedding. Yes, you have guessed it right; the bridegroom was none other than the so-called angry man. This story impressed my friend very much. He liked the idea as well, and told me that he would try it.

The recent news is that things are moving in a much better manner now, and he is able to relate well with his manager and work in a much more cordial atmosphere.

Moisture within the Rock

Hard work perhaps can be rated as the best personality trait of a person’s attributes. There can be no substitute for hard work. I believe in hard work. I love hard working people. People will always respect and love hard working persons.

My question now is whether all hard working people succeed in life?
On the other hand, do all lazy people fail in life?
The answer is” No”.

Similarly, I have some more questions. Do all the intelligent people come up in life?
Alternatively, do all dull persons fail in life?

Again, the answer is a big “NO”.

There is a saying “success is from 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration.

It is obvious that we need intelligence and hard work for success in life.
Nevertheless, there is one more very important factor, which helps you be successful. That is your destiny.



You may call it as destiny or God’s blessing. I strongly believe without God’s blessing we cannot go anywhere near success.

I want to make myself clear to my readers that I do believe in hard work as you do. At the same time, I believe that hard work alone cannot gift you success. We need the favorable gift of Destiny, hard work and intelligence to travel the road of success. The simple arithmetic formula is:

Favorable destiny+ hard work +intelligence= Success